We all know laughter is the best medicine, and apparently that goes for relationships too. If you know how to have a good laugh with your bf or gf, it's a pretty positive sign for the two of you. Laughing WITH each other, not AT each other though. There's a line between poking fun and being abusive remember.
Jeffrey Hall from the University of Kansas has conducted 39 studies involving over 15,000 people over the course of 30 years, and one of his findings was that humour is a critical part of building a successful relationship. Makes sense!
So if you can't remember the last time you and your bf/gf had a laugh together, you might want to start worrying... just saying.
"People say they want a sense of humour in a mate, but that's a broad concept. That people think you are funny or you can make a joke out of anything is not strongly related to relationship satisfaction," Hall explained in a statement.
"What is strongly related to relationship satisfaction is the humour that couples create together. Say you and your partner share a quirky sense of humour, but romantic comedies or sit-coms do nothing for either of you... It's not that any style or a sense of humour is any better or worse,"
"What matters is that you both see quirky humour as hysterical. If you share a sense of what's funny, it affirms you and affirms your relationship through laughter. "Playfulness between romantic partners is a crucial component in bonding and establishing relational security. Particularly shared laughter, is an important indicator of romantic attraction between potential mates,"
But there's obviously a line. You can't just go around throwing abuse at your partner and expect things to be sweet.
"Having an aggressive sense of humour is a bad sign for the relationship in general, but it is worse if the style of humour is used in the relationship. If you think that your partner tells mean-spirited jokes, then it's likely you've seen that firsthand in your relationship," cautions Hall.
Soz if we put doubts in your relationship, but if you're not laughing with each other then you probably needed it tbh!